Can I Vent Please?Oh my goodness I just need to vent!
Last night my son and I had a really horrible night! I’ve shared in past episodes of the show how he has become very physical with me (hitting, kicking, throwing things, etc). It doesn’t seem to take much of anything to set him off in one of his outbursts!
Last night I allowed him to stay up a little later than normal because he didn’t have school today but at 9pm he was mouthing off to me so I told him ok shut the TV off, brush your teeth & get into bed.
The boy went into total freak out mode. Screaming, punching the couch, kicking the couch; then he got off the couch & started picking things up to throw at me so I grabbed him and was trying to put my arms around him to control him but he slipped through my fingers and I got kicked a couple times and punched. I finally get a hold of him and get him in his bed and he’s screaming at the top of his lungs and then he starts throwing all the blankets, pillows and sheets off the bed. I told him ok now that you threw everything on the floor you can lay on your bed like that for awhile and that set him into an even deeper rage than what he already was in. I picked up the phone to call his dad and he ripped the cord out of the wall & slapped the phone out of my hand.
That was the last straw for me! I lost it and started yelling at him which only set him off even more and we had a very heated LOUD argument. I finally had to leave him to his rage in his room and lock myself in the bathroom with the fan on because I couldn’t control my temper anymore & I didn’t want to continue yelling and hollering at him!
It was HORRIBLE! I’m pretty sure my blood pressure was at the boiling point last night. And I thought for sure that today would be better but it’s started all over again. Actually today he hasn’t been violent yet so I should say today is a better day than last night.
I have to say that Friday can’t get here fast enough. It’s his weekend to go to his dad’s and I would be lying if I said I wasn’t looking forward to him spending the weekend with his dad! I seriously need the break from him right now!
February 23rd, 2008 at 11:48 pm
That must of been really hard! I commend you for going in the bathroom though.
A year ago I had a similar episode with my son who was 12! A total temper tantrum! I think those are supposed to stop at age 3? It won’t be long and he’ll be stronger than I am. He’s been in weekly counseling since last year, but about a month ago I finally started seeing a counselor for just me. It’s really hard to do, but I think it’s in the best interest for Tarren if I learn how to deal with my anger & lack of patience.
Whatever happens don’t lose hope.